Why You Should Stop Eating

Why You Should Stop Eating

Seriously.  Stop eating.  Drink water, or maybe you shouldn’t.  I’m not sure if there is anything left.  In fact, if you stop eating, you’ll lessen your ecological footprint.  Save the space on earth for someone that is actually eating.

If you think of a food item, just type in Google, “Why you should stop eating (fill in the blank).  It doesn’t matter what it is, there is a reason you shouldn’t be eating it.  This is exactly why we are so confused.  I’ve tried to blame everything I put in my mouth for my weight gain.  I didn’t blame fresh fruits and veggies, but I blamed everything else.  I did blame some of my vegetables.  Potatoes, a starch a carb, bad.  Beans, a starch a carb, bad.  Starchy veggies that contain carbs MUST be bad.

I totally get why a soda is bad for you and candy and dessert.  Anything that tasted good has to be BAD.  There was a rule of thumb:  if it tasted bad that means it must be good for you.  Does anyone relate to this line of thinking?   We feel that we can’t be good unless our food tastes bad.   We quickly ditch that 2000 calorie diet and eat what we like.  Might as well enjoy your food.  You only live once, just some are here for a little less time than others.

Have you noticed how easy it is to gain weight, but near impossible to lose it?  Your body will gladly and happily take extra calories, but seems to rebel when we take in fewer calories.  When we eat less, our body says “Uh oh, I’m going to starve.  I’m not getting as much food, so I must work hard to store lesser food as fat so I won’t starve to death”.  Our body goes into a state of reduced metabolism, the thing we need to speed up in order to burn calories.  This means, that fewer calories in, our bodies fight back and will win, either now or in the future.  Since you forced it to starve for awhile, it makes sure you have even extra fat in the future.  Kind of like stocking up on extra food when it snows in Dallas, Texas because you believe you may be stuck in your house until you starve to death.  I worked as a cashier at a grocery store, so I know for a fact that this is true.  Our minds go into an irrational place when we worry about not having enough food.  Your body does the same thing. I can’t say whether this is a subconscious thing or a brain thing, but I’m suspecting it is completely biological.

So, this means cutting calories does not help you with long-term weight loss.  Our bodies go into overdrive to push us to finally give in and just eat.

We know we have to eat and now we know that eating less doesn’t solve our problem. We also know that food is scary.   So now what?   I’ll share with you the good news that you can actually eat and lose weight.

P.S. If you know this movie, what is the line?   Please, sir, can I have some more……chicken?

Beautiful People on a Treadmill?

Beautiful People on a Treadmill?

I love this picture.  It is so unreal.  A joke really.  These women did not get their bodies on treadmills.  If I wanted to get on a treadmill, I’d go to the end of the line of treadmills.  No way I’m I getting on one right next to her.  Now you guys, however; you would probably want on the treadmill right next to her.  She seems friendly, maybe you could strike up a conversation, ask her for a date?

When you go to the gym look at the people on the ellipticals and treadmills.  Do they look like the above picture?  Probably not.  Maybe people jogging on it after they have finished lifting weights.  What we want to focus on is not losing weight by moving our weight on a treadmill and getting nowhere.  You need lean muscle mass.  Period.

The good news is that you don’t have to go to the gym to get it.  You don’t have to even lift a weight.  With the right, directed exercise moves along with eating MORE can get you a better, healthier, sexier body.    Doesn’t that sound great?   This is a realistic way to get the body you want and if you want to look like the pic above, you’ll have to do more.  But hey,  I’m talking realistic ways of looking and feeling better, not becoming supermodels and bodybuilders.  If that is your goal, you are reading the wrong blog.

Stop Losing Weight!

Stop losing weight.  Seriously.  Forget about it.  Weight is simply a number.  I used to be 1100 pounds (high school), 120 (early 20’s), 125 (late 20’s), 130 (early 30’s), etc.  Men, you probably weighed around 130 in high school, at 150 you felt filled out and more of a “man” shape.  But then the number kept rising and rising.  180 pounds, 190, 200, 200 plus. Maybe you were a football player in high school and got really big, built up and pure muscle.  Then it all went to jello.  For guys, you might start with a waist size of what?  a 28?  a 32?  It goes up, how did your waist size end up at 40??  It just seems to be a rising number along with rising sizing sizes.  We aren’t happy with our number.  But it is just a number.   Rather than focusing on weight, we are going to focus on body composition.   Here are a couple of definitions:

Body composition is a special term used in physical fitness that measures the percentage of fat, muscle, water and bone found in the human body. Measuring body composition is a specialized way to determine one’s true physical fitness.

Body composition refers to the proportion of fat and fat-free mass in the body. A healthy body composition is one that includes a lower proportion of body fat and a higher proportion of fat-free mass. Body composition is one measurement that is used to assess your health and fitness level.

Body composition is more about hwoman on scaleow you look, lean muscle mass is much more attractive than excess fat mass.  It is about how you look and improving the way you look, not the numbers on the scale.  How you look isn’t measured by pounds.   When I was in my mid-twenties, a friend of mine wanted to lose weight.  I asked her what her goal was, she actually said 90 pounds!  Sure, she was short like me, but seriously?  I asked her where she got that number.  It was what she weighed in high school!   I believe that there is a big difference in kid weight and adult weight.  A grown person’s weight is usually more than the weight of a teenager.  My husband showed me his Monterey High School shirt.  I was a size six at the time and I doubt seriously that I could have pulled that shirt over my body.  It was close to the size my 8-year old wears now!  I wouldn’t want my husband to be that skinny kid he was in high school.  So, forget high school, I sure would like that personally!  

There are two types of fat that we carry around:  fat mass and fat-free mass.  I’ll go for the fat-free, thank you very much!  But, if I was fat-free, I would be made up of bones, water, muscles and tissues.  Hot!  No, I think that would make me more of a cadaver.  So, that means we need some fat mass, right?  We don’t like the sound of it, but really, we would be way ugly without it.   We need fat in our bodies, but how much?  Yes, we know we already have TOO much, now what?  We start by asking a question:  what percentage of your body is fat? What percentage is right or wrong?  How could we possibly know the answer?  By getting on a scale and measuring by pounds?  No.  So, this also means not only are you not going to focus on losing pounds, so you can also throw out your scale!  You know the Beatles song, “All We Need is Love”?   Here is the new version, “All We Need is Change”.   We need to focus on changing our bodies rather than on losing weight.  I’m not on a diet, I’m changing my body.  How many times have you gone on a diet and not change your body whatsoever???  Yeah, most of the time.  So, if we diet and our bodies don’t change, it essentially means that diets don’t work.  Have you seen “The Biggest Loser?”.   We saw their bodies change.  Yep, it is true.  With the proper diet and exercise, they actually lost weight.  A lot of weight.  Guess what?  90% of the contestants gained all of their weight back and some gained even more than their original weight.  How many times have you seen Oprah on a diet?  

Diets don’t work.  Gym memberships don’t work.  We are frustrated, tired yet trying, still failing and hating on our bodies.  We look at thin people and say, “just wait till you hit menopause honey!”, “turn 40”, “have that first baby”, “gain that freshmen 15”, “get married”, etc.  We want them to be fat too.  Misery loves company.  

So the first step is a paradigm shift.  A change in the way you see your body and your weight.  Let me say it again WEIGHT DOESN’T MATTER, POUNDS DON’T MATTER, DIETS DON’T WORK, EXERCISE PLANS DON’T WORK!   Have you looked at fat women on treadmills?  Do you think they are shedding pounds?  No, they aren’t even looking all that different after all of that sweating!  I personally hate to sweat.  I don’t believe in it.  Seriously.  

 I will show you why your weight doesn’t matter.  I will also convince you (or give it a good try) to get rid of your scale. The only times you need scales is in the kitchen and for shipping stuff on Ebay.  I will also explain why cardio doesn’t make much difference in the way you look.  At least not in the long-term.  

Just know this…everything you know about weight loss is WRONG!   

Starving Ourselves Fat



It all started with being forced to resign from my job.  Then a crick that went down my entire spine from top to bottom.  I spent weeks in bed, then more time on muscle relaxers.  I was just getting fatter as I lay in my bed.   I was getting so frustrated!   After menopause, I began gaining weight.  I went from a size 6 to an 8 (Ok, I can live with that one!), but no, then a 10, then a 12 going on 14.

I had been under a lot of stress….for years!  The weight kept piling on and I kept dieting. I can’t tell you how many protein shakes I’ve had for lunch, followed by salads, followed by salads with beans on top.  Whole grain crackers, dried fruit..it didn’t seem to matter.  I kept gaining weight.  As I lay in my bed, in pain, getting fatter I decided to do some research into what I should be eating.  What I have learned turns everything we know about weight loss on its head.  I was so shocked.  All of the things I have always heard were completely wrong!  This is still a work in progress, but I want to not only share along the way, but I want to write a book.  This book is a major work for me because I’m not in my field of study.   But, I’m also a researcher and I’m good at gathering information and presenting it in an understandable way.  Yes, there will be the technical terms, but also I will try to explain them in a way that makes sense.  Once I make sense of something, then I can pass it on.

The same is true for exercise.  Nothing we know about it is true.  You will find this to be refreshing news and stop feeling like a failure.  We may know that our weight isn’t what defines us, or it shouldn’t be, but that doesn’t stop us from looking in the mirror with disgust.  I’ve gone from 12’s that were too tight to 12’s that are a little loose.  I haven’t been exercising because of my back and I was not gaining more weight!  My weight may not have changed, but I’ve found it doesn’t matter.  Yes, that is right, your pounds don’t matter!!  You are going to focus on changing the composition of your body, not losing weight and counting calories.  I have a lot to say about calories and everything you know is completely wrong!!!  It is such good news to me personally.  I don’t have it all together yet, will I ever?, but I’m putting important pieces together and I’m seeing a huge difference.   My energy level is better than it has been in YEARS!  I’m not snacking all day and I’m FAR from starving!  I’m a happy camper!

I hope you are excited as I am about this new take on dieting, based on scientific research that goes against everything you know about losing weight.  So follow me, and I’ll shop you how to stop starving yourself fat and change your body for the better!